Meanwhile at the VA Dementia Ward

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My buddy and I had many adventures before he was confined to the Dementia Ward at the VA.

We drove to Maine, we invaded hardware stores, hobby shops, and restaurants.

But when I first visited him in the dementia ward, I needed to share in order to keep going.

I spoke at his funeral in the fall of 2020.

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Why the Posts

I go there and visit my guys. Sometimes they are better, sometimes worse. I suspect some viewers are not really comfortable with my writing about

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At the VA today. I bring my friend to lunchroom where one guy, alone, is talking at length. An aide joins the lone talker and

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Just came back from weekly visit to VA in Bedford MA, the dementia unit. What stays in my mind is the fellow at the next

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Couple of things. If you are in a ward like this, a little bit of attention from a visitor can bring you to the attention

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My guy is stronger today. I brought him fresh berries. He asked for whipped cream to go with the berries. Some dementia patients are very

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How It Ends

I got the OK to take my guy outside in a wheelchair. He liked the sun, fresh air, birds singing. He loves country and bluegrass

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No Way To Tell It

Last week I didn’t share anything from VA dementia ward. There was no way to tell it without violating people’s privacy. This week my old

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Three Men

My guy a little stronger, knew I was there and smiled before he slid back into the fog. Behind him is a table of three

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So It Goes

My guy was in pretty good shape; we had a nice chat about trips we’ve taken and projects we worked on together. But when I

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No Perfect Way

My guy requested Doyle Lawson bluegrass so I got an exquisite gospel album from iTunes and we listened together to my phone while going through

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A visit on a Thursday at VA dementia ward, since we will be away this weekend. My guy is hanging in there, sang along with

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Suffolk Downs

Suffolk Downs

Brought a friend with me this visit. We were talking to the Jewish vet about Boston sports. We can’t remember the name of that East

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One day I was watching an aide stroking the hand of the one woman resident, who I have never seen to be conscious. But the

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Fawn Lake

My vet is in a wheelchair for the first time in a long time, rather than bedridden. It is a perfect late summer day and

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This was not a good visit. For the first time, my guy was difficult, demanding, and angry with me. Over time, I have brought him

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Great Lungs

My guy was in a good mood when I got there and we had a real conversation. Then he spotted a mother and daughter and

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dirt road


Went to see my guy yesterday when it was warm and sunny. He was in good form, so we wheeled out for a long walk,

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No Rain, Rain

It was so warm last Friday, spooky in November, that I decided to play hookey and take a walk. It occurred to me that my

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You Promised a Midget!

To appreciate this, you need to understand about Marcia, my friend from community theater at Quannapowitt Players. Marcia is warm, outgoing, and wonderful, but she

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Another Warm Day

These unexpected warm days have allowed me to take my guy for long, long wheelchair excursions on the rail trail behind the VA. First thing,

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Tunnel Trips

Now that winter is really here, our outdoor adventures on the rail trail are on hold. But we discovered that every building at the VA

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New Years Day

Just as we were setting out for a trip around the basement tunnels, some visitor from his church, so I left them to be together.

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My guy seems to be sinking a bit further. Still able to smile and laugh, but only when the situation really is funny, which is

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As I arrive, my guy is about to be wheeled off to a dentist appointment. I offer to take him and the aide says yes,

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Rainy Wednesday

A rainy Wednesday at the VA Dementia Ward After a good visit Sunday, both of my guys were in worse shape today: each was barely

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