Berries

My guy is stronger today. I brought him fresh berries. He asked for whipped cream to go with the berries. Some dementia patients are very anxious, one is calm with a gentle smile, like a Bhudda.

Curtains

Couple of things. If you are in a ward like this, a little bit of attention from a visitor can bring you to the attention of the overworked staff. My guy was too sick to get out of bed and eat. Once I was there, he got some attention. Other thing, this brought me back […]

Never

Just came back from weekly visit to VA in Bedford MA, the dementia unit. What stays in my mind is the fellow at the next table who yelled out, “Somebody, can you get me out of here?” A few minutes later he said, quietly, “I will never get out of here.” (The photo is a […]

Burger

At the VA today. I bring my friend to lunchroom where one guy, alone, is talking at length. An aide joins the lone talker and they have a good talk. When she leaves, he continues the conversation, alone. I sit with my friend while he eats the burger I brought as a relief from VA […]

Why the Posts

I go there and visit my guys. Sometimes they are better, sometimes worse. I suspect some viewers are not really comfortable with my writing about these visits in that it feels like I am bragging or showing off how “good” I am. And I am not fully comfortable with it, either. But I am slightly […]